Are You Top or Bottom? (NOT a Bunk Bed Quiz!)

By: Irene Kurylenko
Updated: 20 days ago
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Are you top or bottom? This might seem like an easy question but the whole aspect of intimacy is way too confusing to be 100% sure of anything. If you are still unsure or simply would like to check what your daily habits might indicate, this quick test is perfect for you. 
Our personalities in daily lives do not always correlate with the same position in bed. However, certain habits and traits do indicate preferences! 
Now, if you are still unsure about the terminology and what it entails, let me direct you a bit.

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In intimate relationships, being a "top," "bottom," or "switch" refers to one's preferred role or position during your intimate moments with a partner.
Here's what each term typically entails:


A person who typically takes on the more active or dominant role during sexual activities. This usually involved taking the lead in guiding and initiating sexual encounters. Tops may enjoy being in control and directing the pace and intensity of sexual interactions.
In addition, this is often an indicator of the physical roles during intimacy being quite a direct reference to physically being somehow above the partner. 


A person who typically takes on the more passive or submissive role during sexual activities. Bottoms may derive pleasure from being receptive and surrendering to their partner's desires. A person gains pleasure by releasing control and relaxing. Although this role is typical for people more submissive in their daily activities, a huge percent of bottoms are actually leaders in life who just want to get rid of their constant stress. They relax and clear their mind from that stressful decision-making. 


A person who enjoys both top and bottom roles, or who alternates between them depending on the situation or their partner's preferences. Switches may enjoy the flexibility and variety that comes with being able to explore different roles within their sexual relationships.
Many people prefer variety and get tired of strict roles. Why limit yourself to being either top or bottom when you can follow your heart, emotions, stress levels, and overall energy that day? Adapt and be flexible. 

It's important to note that these terms describe sexual preferences and behaviors and do not dictate other aspects of a person's identity or personality. As mentioned before, while it can correlate with daily roles outside of bedroom activities, that’s not always the case. Many people do have distinct (often opposite) personalities in these settings. 
Also, it’s worth mentioning that preferences can also evolve over time. Do not be stuck in your ways if you are not fulfilled. It’s always good to experiment and learn our ever-changing preferences. Communication and mutual consent are essential in ensuring that all partners feel comfortable and satisfied in their intimate interactions.

Are You Top or Bottom? (NOT a Bunk Bed Quiz!) Questions

bottom or top quiz Do you ever feel like you are tired from constantly making decisions?
  • yes, very often

  • not that often, sometimes

  • not really

bottom or top quiz When it comes to initiating physical intimacy, I usually
  • take charge and lead

  • follow my partner's lead

  • send obvious clues but don't initiate

  • it depends on the mood and situation

bottom or top quiz Can you openly discuss your preferences with your partner?
  • absolutely, I openly express them

  • yes, but I prefer to listen to my partner first and agree/disagree

  • I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable, but I'm working on it

  • no, that's too much for me

bottom or top quiz Do you feel comfortable while experimenting with different intimate roles?
  • yes

  • no

bottom or top quiz How do you respond to feedback about your performance?
  • I appreciate it; value improvement

  • indifferent; confident in abilities

  • open-minded; welcome feedback

  • uncomfortable; prefer not to analyze

bottom or top quiz When meeting new people at a party, you
  • initiate conversations and break the ice

  • let others take the lead in conversations

  • can do both, depending on my mood

  • stay away from people altogether

bottom or top quiz When faced with a decision in a team project, do you tend to:
  • push your ideas

  • support others' suggestions

  • collaborate and find a compromise

  • relax and observe

bottom or top quiz When you plan an event with your friends, you
  • take the lead

  • I prefer to coordinate and delegate the tasks

  • remain in a supportive role

  • pitch ideas

bottom or top quiz Do you prefer to avoid confrontations or instigate them?
  • I always avoid them

  • sometimes I do instigate

  • not instigate per se but never back down

  • all depends on my stress and energy levels

bottom or top quiz When faced with a challenge, you
  • accept it and rush forward!

  • think carefully how to tackle it

  • hm, is it hard? then no

  • I always look for help

bottom or top quiz Do you think your sexual drive is high?
  • yes

  • no

bottom or top quiz Which of these superpowers would you rather have?
  • invisibility

  • telekinesis

  • teleportation

  • flight

bottom or top quiz Do you have a position where you manage several people?
  • yes, and I love it

  • yes, but it's soooo stressful

  • no, but I'd like to try

  • nah, that's not for me

bottom or top quiz On the matter of bunk beds...which do you choose?
  • top

  • bottom

bottom or top quiz Would you say that you are confident in intimate situations?
  • yes

  • not really

  • only with people I know well and trust

bottom or top quiz Netflix and Chill time: do you watch movies till the end?
  • I prefer to, yes

  • depends on a movie

  • almost never till the end

  • depends on my mood, I'd say

bottom or top quiz Your perfect weekend is...
  • relaxed

  • active

  • 1 day relaxed and 1 day active

bottom or top How cautiously do you try new foods?
  • very cautiously

  • I'm not in a rush, try a bit and see

  • nah, I just enjoy the food! no cautiousness

bottom or top How do you like your vacations?
  • well-planned

  • spontaneous

  • just let them be slow and relaxed

bottom or top What do you do with your free time when you have no plans?
  • do something useful

  • enjoy my hobbies

  • just relax (sleep, binge watch something, etc)

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